)Well let's just say that if I ever have children again, I know I will discipline different than I did this time and not compromise from the beginning as I did this time (well with the father of course there has to be compromise but I was definitely taken out of the equation by my parents) ... It really has held me back years trying to fix everything that I allowed them to over step in my authority. It took me a while to realize and now being a more secure adult, I wont allow it.
So a few days ago.... my son was being a lil brave and playing rough with my lil cousins and getting into trouble and etc... boys will be boys-- I know the phrase well... but I told my son to sit down and stop it... he 3was pushing my buttons, the house was loud and I knew something was going to happen. I just wanted to watch the movie he had put on to watch (Spider Man 2) and he was uneasy... kept jumping and running and horse playing....
Anyways, a few minutes after I told him that I hear him crying. My dad was blaming one of my lil cousins... (granted he's the most troublesome child, and it's usually his fault, and in well in this instance it was his fault too). Danny had gotten his fingers crushed by the door because he was pushing to open and the other boy was pulling.. yea this never ends well... So my dad was yelling at my brother because he said it wasn't my son's fault and he was just a baby and blah blah blah... So I stepped in,and told my dad that he wasnt a baby, and if he would listen then things wouldn't have happened as they did... and tried to play the baby game again... and I told him 5 years old isn't a baby and he should listen to what is said to him... yea, I guess we were all a little edgy that night but my son is no baby and needs to know responsibility. And he needs to know there are consequences for not listening...
I don't think that defending and letting him get away with it will do him any good... and especially making him believe he is a victim each time... you decided not to listen...it's your fault too... accidents happen....
That is my position but he's mad... my brother and I both yelled at him .... but my borther was there and my dad said he didn't know anything...
I know I'm known to be his favorite... lol or use to be until I ended up pregnant and stuff... now Danny is his lil favorite... but took him years to get into Danny's heart... My dad when he found out I was pregnant... he stopped talking to me, he was upset, disappointed... you name it... so I didn't hear from him... he had no choice but to have to have to take me to the hospital the day my son was born so I think he felt compassion seeing me in so much pain, because he didn't know what to do ... but just as I faced the pain for my choices, all kids need to learn the same thing... It's not that we don't care but that we care a lot not to ruin them for life. It was tough being overshadowed by both parents and their child raising skills which I may add aren't anywhere near perfect but I wasn't able to ever learn...
Anyways, yes my father isn't talking to me right now.. and I believe that I had a good reason for saying what I said... And if he got hurt- I'm truly sorry and didn't mean to disrespect him but I am a mother too and I need to look out what's best for my son not my parents.. Simple as that!!
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