Why has this past year been the worst for most. I find it so sad. I am seeing so many people loosing their jobs, separating from their husbands... Having no money surely is a cause of so many changes. Sometimes it's not the reason why people leave people but people change because they can't provide. They are no longer happy they can't be the person they vowed to be at the beginning and they change. They change so much that the loved ones no longer recognize who they are... Many people then start doubting their many choices they made in life but people are entitled to changed but sadly it's a lot easier to change for the bad than the good. A good change takes so much dedication, time, patience and most really aren't willing to give it up that easily without knowing the outcome and we all know we don't know what is going to happen in the future otherwise we would change a few things of our own but even knowing; most know we wouldn't change anything, and that's the truly sad thing..

I can say that I have seen some of those issues with my parents and it's hard  but I guess they are still to this point to meet a goal. My mom has her goal of her 25th wedding anniversary in 3 years. I think that's one of the reasons why she keeps going. I think if she meets that goal she knows that she can go further on. See life is very complicated and just like in anything else we all have to set realistic goal of course you can't do that just when you have a boyfriend/ girlfriend... that process starts once you made the commitment of, "I do" Once that occurs it is a lot easier to have future goals because you both agreed to supposedly be there for each other for life. The hard part then is when one person in the marriage has made goals but the other doesn't know but its about. See problems in relationships will always occur and that's normal but before you say ," I do" you must  really know how that person is and if you can come to an agreement. Many things will need to be compromised at many times but it has to work both ways. Things go really bad when the girl has given it up every single time and when she starts asking for something return the guy is caught off guard and he doesn't like what he is seeing... I mean it ends up being our fault for always compromising ourselves. A relationship is always equal no matter what time or era it is...
See I believe that even in the 50's or 40's well before the feminist movement... girls or wives had some right but since they weren't recognized they weren't implied but we're stupid to think that girls had no say in their household... we might not have seen it but I am sure they did.   We are always good at judging and giving advice but when it's time to take it, its' not at easy or even trying to apply it... why is it that we as people give it but can't take it.... so if that's the case and no one really takes it... then no body shold give it then, right...

Well I love hearing the advice... I try my best to take it in with a grain of salt but like many people I have a hard time aplying it and that is what I am trying to work on... compromising to accept advice so when I do happen to get into a relationship I can try and meet in the middle...Although, even that is too idealistic... But we'll see... I will not try and get married until there is a point of no return... and no that's not even with kids...because we see that people still divorse with kids... It's going to be a horrible judgemment. Back in the past a point of no return would be having sex, then having kids, and now those seem to be meaningless to many.... so we'll see...