Why we fail...

I am always one to read relationship articles and how to make something work, what to do to change attitudes... You know the basics... I'm no expert in relationships in fact I've been in less than most people well not most people people there are some who have been in none. I guess what I have learned is to know what you don't like... Having a list of requirements of needs of a person will not always work but it sure helps to pin point but they're not quite deal breakers.
If you know what you don't like in people from the get go, then you definitely can pinpoint deal breakers. Those will be thing that will fire up an argument. It's not something you find out from one day but as you notice manerisms of the person and how they are. I guess that's why we go through a "get to know you" phase so that you learn part of who they are and what characteristcs are tolerable and which aren't.
See, I've always loved psychology and human behavior but I hate reading so many facts... I bore myself to sleep. Instead, I do study people. I guess it happened when I was so quiet and couldn't get myself to talk to anybody so I could notice actions and reactions of people. It's kind of fun to watch people. Yes, I would notice couples and you definitely tell by their postioning in their bodies and actions and reactions how they feel about each other. I guess in that sense I was fortunate that I was never noticed or I would be considered a creeper; I just used my peripheral vision. I'm no creeper. I guess this is where people who feel or are experts, are experts by studying and seeing behavior but not experts because they're experience it. Well some must experience it - I HOPE!!! - When you experience something, you're blinded and it's not so easy to think or judge for yourself. You're just happy with what's going on, you're hopeful and have faith something will spark so the little details of positioning and other small details aren't noticeable. (most of the time)
I guess the issue we all come to puzzle ourselves with is "The One" Sure there are people who we're more compatible or have a stronger connection. Lucky for us we're able to build a stronger connection with people now finding more compatibility over the net and not letting the physical aspect (pressure)  blind you but it will also be a factor added when you actually meet in person. Attractions, pheromones will all be components to know if the person who you have fallen for is actually one you can still handle being with. Sometimes, you can meet the person and they may not be it at all. But, let's be positive and think that it all goes well *crosses fingers* then you just continue building. Love, is a wonderful feeling, and probably the best in the world.
So, I was reading that we all focus on the whole concept of "the one" and we forget about how you fell in love... some people seek and seek and they never find anything because they don't know what they're looking for. They go through relationships unhappily changing to another and another... It doesn't work that way and a person will never find happiness...So the best Key to making a relationship/ marriage a very successful in your personal life "...IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND." I guess with that comes a choice and a decision of love and life and of the daily value. Nothing in life will ever be easy and if you don't know how to work through the hard times, you will never learn to appreciate the good in life. It's always better to focus on the happy moments and not on the transitional points that are just roads to take you where you need/will to go.
At the end of it all, it's not about just concerning with what can and might be but letting yourself enjoy the moments and choosing to enjoy the moments not just giving up when it gets tough. It's a lot easier to quit than stick it through. But, when will quitting be enough to add joy to life.