What are your thoughts on divorce? Are you or your parents divorced? How has it affected you?

Divorce has always had it's negative connotations when it comes to keeping a family together. And I use to think that divorce is the worse thing in the world. As I have come to mature with age which is not vbery much since I am only 27, a single mother and unwed, I don't see divorce as such a bad thing. Hold on first let me explain something first. I suppose as a person, if I had to divorce seeing how I have never been married it would feel as a small failure but seeing a bystander view of others sometimes it's important for that ability to be available.

I am catholic so we know the religious point of view doesn't agree but at the same time there is even a loophole though the church as well. 

during the past 5 years or so my parents have been going through a rough patch in their lives. You may call it their id-life crisis or my dad's way to try and be a little childish since he never had a childhood then again neither did my mother. They always had to work and earn their way since they were young. My mother wasn't allowed to go to school because my grandpa thought it was useless and my dad had a 6th grade schooling because he needed to work and make money. They grew up in Mexico. Not many resources.  They met, they got together, they had me and were married a year after my birth or so. They didn't know much about each other. 

Now as older they were having many arguments, no communication, and they just couldn't stand being in the same room. It hurt seeing the awkward silence or seeing how ever small word lead to an argument, even a compliment. 

At the point where my dad kept saying he wanted to leave not to anyone ... just me... or I think just me because my mom didn't seem to know. 

My mom just complained about everything about him and for a long time she said she loved him but she was fed up and preferred trying to earn her own way without him. And this was all to me. None of my siblings have patience to hear their nonsense, but I figured that since sometimes I was going crazy with the thought running through my head what's listening to more craziness.

I was finally okay with the idea that divorce was okay because i thought that maybe they're learn more about each other and stop taking each other for granted. I'm sure they can live without each other but at the same time I don't think they can. They even when they disprove some how still take care of each other when they're sick, feeling bad and what not. I don't think anyone would come in and do that for them unless it was us their kids and I don't see my siblings doing it is.  One lives with her bf an hour away, another is married and well he's a marine so he's not around, the other is my other bro but he's about to leave for the marines also. I'm left and have been more constant with them since I'm a single mother and can't afford much but I'm still hopeful that I will have a life of my own with just my son and maybe a lucky person. We're all starting our lives but I suppose circumstances will arise when they do. 

I do live by the thought that if I ever get married I know enough of this person to withstand whatever it is and be able to wok it out so the "divorce" question will never be an option. I like to think that it can happen like it has in the past and work with each other. But, I suppose that that is some challenges that I will encounter when and if I ever do get married. 

There are a few people who I think should be divorced and it's mainly because abuse. irreconcilable differences is a stupid way to opt-out.  But, I do think that some people marry wrong and that was a chose they made and if they have kids the kids suffer for it. People should be aware of the commitment that comes with marriage and the meaning of forming a life together. Whether a man and a woman, a woman and a woman or a man and a man. A partnership is all the same and it will always affect those near them not just them. 

I know I was all over the place but this is how I feel. And I just feel like writing since I've been keeping much in since I haven't been able to write much. *sigh* 

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