Being a SINGLE MOM and dating!!

Being a single mother doesn't come with the most appealing package when it comes to dating. Hey, don't get me wrong gentlemen (and I reserve my right to call you "gentlemen" because I expect no less) are now coming around to the  fact that there are things you can't change. YOU CAN'T!!!!! But, even though you come in knowing minimal of my situation... they all automatically start thinking about the future... which I understand and it's natural but you prepare yourself to fail before you even give me a chance or the situation the possibility of a chance. I know right now, you can't be a daddy and in fact I'm not asking you to. I'm not asking you to be a replacement for anything or anybody. When you tell me insecurities about not knowing whether you can be a father or not it's fine... but don't make it seem it's because I have a son and you don't know you can be a father... If you can even consider me as an option then take one step at a time. Just because it isn't easy for you, put yourself in my shoes (and sure run away if you like with them on), BUT don't assume what's best for me. I, and only I, know what's best for me. I've been the mother and father for my son's life and guess what? Whether you're in my life or not...I will continue to be that person.

Don't try and sugar coat the shit in life! I know better, I'm no princess. I've been held to a pedestal, dismantled and thrown and treated like the scum you hold in the creases of your shoes... Am I weak because it's been done? NO. I am stronger? Probably not... Can I tolerate more? probably... Do I cry? At times... I am human and a lady after all.
Look, I'll be straight forward. I am not going to BS you, I'm pretty honest when it comes to things. I don't have time to waste and frankly I don't want you to waste mine either. And by wasting I also don't mean, that I'm trying to hook any person. I'm no beggar and I have my right to choose. And frankly, I will not compromise to just anybody because of it. I have more to lose than you  ever would. You have your right to walk away but be honest from the beginning like I was. I very frankly, if it's meant to be single motherhood is no shame and there are women who do it all the time.

(Or maybe I am trying to hook a guy? what?!?!?! Not my mission in life) lol
I will say this one thing. You can't come with your authoritarian male ego and expect me to submit to you  because I've learned to be independent. Hey, if you wanna know...I know how to cook, clean, wash and all that jazz... but since I've been treated I will treat you as my equal. And as I expect someone to disagree with me and tell me the truth, I will be held just as accountable.
So, one very important issue with me is that even though I grew up as a submissive type girl, quiet, timid, sweet, to herself I tend to be a little dominant. I try to give no room to be wrong which we all know is subjective. I grown up being pushed, pulled, in every way and situation. But, one thing I have learned: That if I don't stand my ground, you wont respect me. I am stubborn but because I feel I am right and it's my right. it's my perspective and logic that leads me there. I expect deepdiscussions on issues no assumptions. I think that the issues with couple nowadays is the lack of communication. I will not have something so simple be the problem from my part.
Being a single mom, means I have to tend to my son's needs and mine... doesn't mean you're going to be less but realize the responsibility i've held and for how long. Once unity is form it's a family of 3...
The most important thing will be communication, understanding, patience, a lot of love...
Don't give up because it just became harder FOR YOU! But, if it did get harder and you can't handle please walk away.
I guess the biggest problem I see with people is that they form an escape route and I don't blame them... I keep my walls up pretty high, personal protection. I will still treat my men like kings as long as I'm treated like a queen. It's fair and equal.
It's no easy road but it's never been with me. You accept or don't try. One more thing when you meet a person, inhale them well because I don't want you to think you can change me when I've come in accepting ALL your flaws and know you're also stubborn and wont change. So, gentlemen, you can't change me... and I wont try to change you.

(This is my family of two)